"Where it all began:The origin of our Disorders" Part 2

David Allen Brown

Christian Writer

Where it all began:The origin of our Disorders

When we first realize that something is wrong as we begin to feel the pangs of life coming down on us, we might decide to numb our feelings up a little. After all, they aren’t good feelings we are having about ourselves as we ponder the things we see as wrong with us. They really stink.


Drugs and alcohol begin to play the roles of band-aids and splints to brace us against the onslaught of negative feelings we have about ourselves from the issues we've developed. Maybe some of these issues are just beginning to show up and are taking root in our lives even now. We are becoming desperate to stop the bad feelings from gaining any more ground and we decide to do something about them.


The framework begins to go up, followed by walls and eventually entire holding cells are constructed in our minds. In short order, we began to live as hostages to the insecurities and issues we developed as youngsters and as adults.


I built walls from alcohol and spent 16 years hiding from my fears. It wasn’t until I decided to face my past that the present could be dealt with. After I tackled my past issues, everything in my present became manageable. Today I am neither a slave to my past or my present. With Gods help I became a free man.


As we grow into adulthood we carry baggage along with us that often times we are unaware of. We only begin to open our eyes when we either notice on our own or often times as others bring up our shortcomings. Someone else pointing out our issues is rarely greeted with open arms or open minds as we are still in self protection mode.


Through a series of stages we gradually come to see the things that our friends and loved ones see unless…and this is a huge unless. Unless we choose to live in denial of our walls and choose to live out our lives without getting help.

I know people in both the help and in the no-help categories. I have concluded that the ones who face their demons early in life ended up far happier and more content at the end of the day.

Bottling up the issues that enslave you is a bad way to go. It’s all going to come out at some time or another. Wouldn’t you rather be in control of these feelings when they do decide it’s time to make them known? If you can’t get a handle on them when they are just taking root in your life then expect them to grow into full blown vines that will eventually choke the life out of us.

This refers to those who know they have issues yet choose to ignore them and hope they’ll just up and go away on their own. I have bad news for you my friends. It doesn’t work that way. I watched someone I cared about totally melt down time and time again while denying any semblance of a problem.


We all choose in this life what to do with ourselves on every level . When life calls you out, what will you do? Deal with it or ignore it? The answer is up to you. I suggest heading to “The” counselor and also a good Christian counselor. That way you don’t get just a lot of psycho babble based on theories and guess work.

Don’t just take the advice of any counselor. A counselor is only as good as his education and his beliefs. After all, there are atheist counselors who will not give you the same advice that a Christian counselor will give you.

I strongly recommend a counselor who can tell you where his belief system is rooted. Is it rooted in mankinds philosophy or in God’s doctrine? You must decide what is right for you. My personal opinion is that God’s doctrine is sound and good for everyone.


God is, as it says in the Bible, a “wonderful counselor”. He’s also free. Go ahead and set up a time to talk with him. He is always available. Even on evenings, weekends and holidays.